I recently went back to the clinic in which I had an abortion. I wanted to have my ultrasound pictures and a copy of my file. It has been tough digesting what the file holds but I feel like it was something I needed to do. Notes from my abortion counselor. “Pt returned today very confident and sure that ab is best. She is looking forward to being in a school play.” I’m sorry, I didn’t realize crying uncontrollably, having a panic attack in your office, and telling you that I wanted to proceed with my pregnancy but that I felt trapped into this by my partner was a full display of confidence. I was not an empowered feminist proud to have ownership of my body and offspring in this moment. I was lost, anxious, alone and with no one to turn to. Often times women seek abortions because we are desperate, not empowered or confident. We believe we don’t have any other options. The sad truth is that many of us would really love to carry on with our pregnancies though we don’t know what resources we have or don’t have. But we know that we must hurry and get on with it because the fetus is growing and the clinic workers are pushing for an answer. When I told my abortionist that I strongly thought of taking my child away from their father and raising them myself but that I didn’t know what it entailed, she did not talk about alternatives and my other options. She encouraged me to have an abortion regardless of how helpless I felt or how much I cried. Couldn’t she had said ‘Sara, maybe this isn’t for you after all. Would you like to go home?’ And I would’ve screamed, yes! Thank you! I hear and read this too often from other women, unfortunately. There are so many women out there who are lied to about what abortion does and what is really inside of them all by the people who are supposed to help us exercise our empowerment as women. Why are they withholding the truth from us? There are a handful of us who realize what we’ve done after its too late and the pain and regret lasts for a lifetime. A little encouragement and hope can go a long way. Women deserve better, as do our children.
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Really? Because I have yet to see one of these pro life bigots on here help a mother or child out when they’re in need. All I’ve seen is “you shouldn’t have had sex if you couldn’t afford a baby!”
I don’t doubt that SOME pro-lifers are going through with the movement to actually help earthbound beings, but most are just pro-birth and that’s a fact, Jack.I know I’m going to get hate for this. I may even lose a few followers. I hope not, I hope you all are mature enough to look past it as I do to you. This is in regards to the above comment. I am pro life. I have always been pro life. I believe in equality of life to all living creatures. I do not place my life above any other. My pro life journey began at 4 years old, on my 4th birthday when I made the connection that meat was animals, & that these animals had to die to provide us this meat. That broke my heart, & I vowed to never eat another animal again, a vow I have kept for 18 years. My whole life, I have donated my time, money, supplies, & knowledge to bettering the lives of those around me, both human & critter alike. In my time helping others, I have met many other people who are like minded, who strive for a better life for all. I am so exhausted of “pro choicers” using this as an argument. While I don’t pretend that there are some who strictly put effort into ensuring a baby is born but take to interest post birth, it is not my case, nor is it the case of the people I surround myself with. The issue at hand doesn’t seem to be about a pregnancy or baby, the issue at hand seems to be about enabling society with essentials & abilities to better their lives. Shouldn’t that be what your focus is? To raise the quality of life, not support taking life away in the face of hardships? After all, we have no idea what life will hold for those who’s future are hazy; the drug addicts, the homeless or poor, the teen moms, the sexually assaulted, the ones with medical conditions, etc. I have met mothers in these circumstances, & I have met children that were born to mothers in these circumstances, & their children or their life is worth no less than mine. It is not up to us to dictate a life’s worth. I believe in equality of life to all, & I strive to make that a reality.
Comparing aborted fetuses (no memories, no personalities, no attachments, no dreams) to Holocaust victims (who had all of those things, were fully formed human beings) is incredibly disrespectful and shameful. Comparing a human being with ambitions and feelings to a clump of tissue that looks like a chunk of vomit in a petri dish is not only profoundly illogical, but heartless and belittling to those victims. You do not represent this generation, and your work does nothing but harm.
About how you think this (9 weeks, from this website) looks like vomit, and not a human being? And apparently thinking looking like vomit means its okay to kill something no matter what it is, just based on what it looks like? (I thought about making a joke about me being ugly here, and couldn’t get it to sound the way I wanted. Plus I’m not.)
I think I’ll just say yet again, that we compare the abortion to the Holocaust sometimes not because the victims were good or bad, worthy or unworthy, old or young, but because they were human beings who were killed en masse.
There are three prerequisites for being a human being that is worthy of dignity and, you know, not being killed. Distinct, alive, and human. (Distinct and alive could be a bird, distinct and human could be a corpse, human and alive could be your fingernail.) But a fetus, which has its own DNA, processes wastes and can hear and dream, and is of the same species as both its parents because that’s how nature works, is all three. (Death penalty advocates might add innocent, but I’ve never heard of a fetus committing one of the Seven Deadlies, and you did not specify that Holocaust victims were innocent. So.) Holocaust victims were also all three. And they were massacred.
So our comparison simply says “look at all these millions of human beings being killed because someone decided to say they weren’t human! All humans deserve rights, not just the ones you like! Killing is wrong and terrible!” And you looked at that and saw “heartless”.
I think the reason for that is that it would be uncomfortable, wouldn’t it, to have something you advocate be compared to one of the worst acts in the modern world - perhaps in all of history? Yeah, that would suck for me too. That’s why I don’t go in for the Holocaust analogy. Not because it’s inaccurate. But because I’m pandering to your feelings. I’m actually trying to be sensitive to the fact that you don’t like to be called a murderer.
Well, I don’t like to be called disrespectful or heartless, but when you said it, I looked at it and thought about it logically and wrote out a reply. I’m asking you to look at what you said and what I said and think about it the same way. Maybe do some research. Read up on it more. Try to start friendlier dialogues. Wonder if maybe the Holocaust analogy is more sound than you think. Not perfect in every particular - that’s what makes it an analogy. But sound.
You made me angry, which is what I think you intended, so good job. But I’m not going to respond to you angrily. Because I don’t want you to be my enemy. I want you to be my ally. Not because I want to be right, but because the right already exists, and I want you to see the truth and join with me in my attempt to stop the idea that millions of deaths mean nothing. That’s why we say “we are the pro-life generation”, you know. Not because every single one of us is pro-life. We’re not talking statistics. We’re talking hope.
We say that in hope that this will be the generation that will win people like you and me and R and G and everyone else over to the truth. And in the hope that this will be the generation that will stop the slaughter. That will see that trying to do that isn’t harmful, it’s good. It’s a rally cry. And we’re not trying to leave you out of it, we’re inviting you in, so you don’t have to get defensive when analogies like that are made.
Think about it.